Happy birthday to my beautiful genius forever Valentine, JennIRL!

slacktory:

Tough Love: The Invitation (by Steven Bell and Slacktory)

I’m proud to present Slacktory’s most ambitious show yet: a beautifully shot multi-location web series about Steven and Blaire, two roommates from the third-coolest borough of New York City.

We released the first two episodes at once, so after you watch above, you can go on to episode 2: The Party.

You can also watch the first season of Tough Love starring Steven and Blaire.

This show has a booze heist, two gingers, a crooked meditation teacher, and a hot lesbian fantasy involving a soft pretzel with cheese whiz. Like you’re doing anything better with your Tuesday…

  • me: VMars tho.
  • Maris: oh fuck!
  • i knew i was forgetting someone
  • me: too hard?
  • Maris: that first logan kiss
  • me: with JTT?!?
  • Maris: totes
  • me: Haaaaa, I think I'm an "epic" girl.
  • Cliche but UNF that Mike Doughty song.
  • Maris: that Mike Doughty song kills me
  • me: yup.
  • Also, can I tumbl this geech?

ruthbaron:

Today is my birthday, so it seemed appropriate to post this thing I read last week at the Tumblr YA party about the best birthday card I’ve ever received (among other things).  

My love of entertainment created primarily for teenagers predates my teenage years and has survived way longer than my adolescence. I feel no shame about that—if you’ve read Eleanor & Park or Endangered, then you know a good book is a good book no matter how old you are or how old the protagonist is. One thing I’ve always liked about fiction is that however different I am from the characters I’m reading about, when they’re well drawn, I get a chance to connect to them and live in their world for a little while.

For me, this is almost doubly true with TV. I wasn’t really allowed to watch it as a kid, and I think that’s why when I watch now I sometimes have a hard time separating what’s happening on screen from what’s happening in my life. That never really seemed like a problem until I met Logan Echolls. I made the mistake of sleeping on Veronica Mars and didn’t watch it until the second half of my twenties, by which point developing an intense crush on a pretend high school student seemed a littttttle dicey. And let me be clear, I did not have feelings for Jason Dohring, the actor who plays Logan Echolls and is older than I am. I was obsessed with the much younger teenage character.

If you’re a Veronica Mars fan, you know all about Logan’s appeal. If you’re not, then I guess it’s pistols at dawn for us. No, if you’ve never seen Veronica Mars, then just knowing someone finds Logan Echolls sexy is an enormous spoiler because it will make exactly zero sense until season 1 episode 18. But when it makes sense, then Logan will be the only thing you ever think about. Or, at least, that’s what happened to me. I was, to borrow a phrase from another of my imaginary teenage friends, majorly, totally, butt crazy in love with Logan.  

In season two there is this mega-hot graphic makeout scene where it is implied that Logan gets to third base with his makeout partner. And one night with some friends, I happened to admit this scene was something I thought about in some *cough* private moments. Confessing this here is pretty embarrassing, but it is a testament to how awesome my friends are, that when I told them, they did not make fun of me, or call Officer Leo of the Neptune PD and warn him there was a child predator on the loose. No, instead they worked their connections, and the next thing I know, on my 27th birthday, I get an email from Logan Echolls. Yeah, that’s right, the fictional love of my life wrote me an email.  

Subject line: Hey over there.  Body text: I hope it’s as great as you are.  xx. Attachment:

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I wrote back because I’m not a dummy. We had a brief, intimate correspondence, but—and this will surprise no Logan admirers—he disappeared for a few months. And just as I was about to give up hope, I receive this:

Ruthie,

Sorry I’ve been out of touch for so long. I was trying to get my head on straight. Which mostly entailed staring teary-eyed out across large bodies of water and sometimes taking four too many tequila shots.

But I’m back. And I just want to be with you.

I also want to buy us these matching shirts: 

[I wish I had a visual to insert here, but the original link to dELiA*s no longer works. So that you know, they were crop tops that said LO-VE on them]

Not only do they speak to the way I feel about you—as I said in S02E20, “I thought our story was epic, you know, you and me.”—but they are also buy one, get one 50% off.

Always,

Logan

Guys, I am telling you, if Logan hadn’t disappeared for real after that, there would be Lifetime Movies about our forbidden love, and all the Kristen Bell loyalists out there would be launching a Kickstarter to assassinate me.  

But he did disappear, and I moved on to greener, younger pastures. ABC Family doesn’t have the best reputation in adult circles (I blame Pat Robertson), but oh how I adore the shows on that network. Especially the masterpiece Switched at Birth, which is, yes, a soap opera about two girls who were switched at birth. It is also an incredibly smart, sensitive show about deaf culture, class, and activism, but, let’s be real, I watch it for the sweet teenage action.  

Namely, Emmett, a deaf separatist drummer who rides a motorcycle and heartily supports Kansas City’s Bansky-esque street art scene. Emmett and I haven’t had occasion to interact IRL yet. After my experience with Logan, though, I have faith that it’s happening, so I’ve been taking some YouTube ASL tutorials so that when we do meet, I will be able to communicate with him. So far, I can pretty much only sign my name, but I’m working on, “Run away with me, and let’s be together forever.”

Before I shared this story, I looked up the actor who plays Emmett, because I thought it would be really disgusting for a grown man go on about how much he loves 16 year old girls, and I figured I should abide by close to the same rules (though, uh, it’s maybe too late for that). The actor turned 20 on Monday—happy birthday, Sean Berdy!—so phew. But, when I saw that he was born in 1993, the actual words that went through my head were, “Thing I like about high school boys, they keep getting younger, I stay the same age.” So that’s sort of unsettling.  

But I’m trying not to sweat it too much, because, as with most things, I’ve learned the hard way what Britney Spears already knew: in matters of the heart, I’m not a girl, but not yet a woman. Still, I’d like to think maturity is possible and waiting for me. After all, I was recently revisiting Buffy season 3 for, oh, I don’t know, the 4th or 5th hundred time. And at various times in my life I have lusted after Angel, Spike, Oz, and even Xander, who I’m usually pretty lukewarm on. But I’m happy to report that as a grown woman, I realized the true hotty with a body on that show is none other than Rupert Giles. I can’t wait to start planning our wedding.  

Best.

litcrawlnyc:

Books, drinks, trivia, love. The best April Fool’s Day ever!

I’m on the party committee for this event, along with MarisAmandaMichelleHalimahKarolina,Fern, and many more of your favorite bookternet nerds. I know you don’t have anything better to do on a drizzly Monday, so be there or be totally lame. 

SEE YOU SOON!

vol1brooklyn:

So Jami Attenberg and Jeffrey Yoskowitz hung out in our founding editor’s kitchen and made pickles. 

"Are you insane? Who doesn’t want their pickle?"

Sybil Davidson has a genius I.Q. and has been laid by at least six different guys…”
Anyone? Anyone…?

It’s the first line of Forever by Judy Blume. Everyone always talks about Are You There God, It’s Me Margaret? And “we must, we must, we must increase our bust,” but it was Forever that I read again and again until it was in 3 separate pieces, and then read it some more.

Forever taught me everything I know about love and sex. Well, no, I know more now. But Forever shaped my young worldview. It taught me that sex was about love, but not necessarily about marriage. That it was about commitment, but not necessarily life-long commitment. That you could love someone as a teenager, and it could be real, and wonderful, and important, and worthwhile, and it could end and you could move on, and that was okay too.

So that was my mindset when I met Jared, my first for-real boyfriend. He was tall and smart and rich and Jewish — everyone said my mother must be thrilled. My mother was horrified. “Oh my God, Rachel, he’s so…CONVENTIONAL!”

We lost our virginities in a stunning display of simultaneous non-orgasm, and proceeded to have a very lovely First Relationship.

At some point, I bought him a copy of Forever. The cover had changed, from the gold-tone locket illustration of my decimated 1970s copy to a photograph of a pretty blond that made me want to stab someone. Still, I had no apprehension about giving him the book – it was about the importance of young love, about the power of emerging sexual awakening, and most of all it was hugely important to me.

He hated it. Haaaaaated it. Somehow, despite having the book entirely memorized, I had neglected to notice that the couple breaks up at the end, when she meets someone a little bit older, more worldly, more interesting. They see each other one last time at a stationery store. “I wanted to tell him I’d never be sorry for loving him…” Uunnff it’s so good. But okay, yes, potentially horrifying to an infatuated 19-year-old.

So here’s how I decided to fix this: I stole the book back. I stole it back, and I cut out the last few chapters with an exacto knife. The whole part that makes the book nuanced and realistic and different from other teen romances. I rewrote the ending, and glued that in instead. It included sentences like “Oh god, I love you” I told him. “And we belong together. And I don’t ever want to be apart again.” The last words were “happily ever after.”

So I took this frankenbook, and I wrapped it up, and tied a ribbon around it, and gave to it him for his birthday, about a year and a half into our relationship. He loved it, he said it was perfect, it was the most wonderful, beautiful thing anyone had ever given him.

We broke up two weeks later.

(via Susan Sontag on Love: Illustrated Diary Excerpts | Brain Pickings)

Have we talked yet today about how much I worship Wendy MacNaughton?

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Because importantly, “this book” isn’t just text on a screen, right? It’s the design, the physical artifact. It’s the press we’ll do when it comes out, the events we’ll dream up. It’s real books in real bookstores! And all of that together will help push Penumbra beyond our little corner of the web here (and make no mistake, it is a tiny little corner)—help push him, and us, out into the wider world.

Let me put it another way. You know those heist movies, where half the fun is watching the team come together—the mastermind, the master of disguise, the demolitions expert? Well, that’s what this past year has been. It’s been that scene.

And now we’ve all found each other. It’s me and my closest readers, the mysterious inner circle of the Moon Yeti. It’s my Kickstarter crew, the Committee to Find and Rescue Annabel Scheme. It’s Sarah Burnes and her colleagues at the Gernert Company. It’s my new allies at FSG, and it’s Sean McDonald, who’s actually been an ally for some time. It’s Matt and Tim and the assembled might of the Snarkmatrix. And maybe it’s you, too.

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Penumbra has a posse

This post means so much to me. It’s something I read again and again when I lose inspiration about how we’re going to make it forward, you and me and new technologies and old publishing houses and legacy and innovation and writers and readers and bookstores and e-readers and community and words.

We’re gonna make it after all…

Anonymous Asked
Question<p>do you believe in saving sex for marriage?</p> Answer

fishingboatproceeds:

I can’t answer that question unless I answer the question of what constitutes marriage. And none of the definitions I have for marriage really hold up to scrutiny:

1. A marriage is a legal contract. But for the vast majority of human history, marriages were not legal contracts, so are we to say that all those people—from the Prophet Muhammad to Mary and Joseph—weren’t really married?

2. A marriage is a life-long monogamous romantic relationship. Well, this is patently untrue. 40% of marriages end in divorce; is it immoral for those people to have had sex during their marriages simply because their marriages later ended? If I’m single, meet a girl in Las Vegas, marry her, have sex with her, and divorce her the next day—is that somehow less ethically problematic than two unmarried people in a committed relationship having sex?

The question is further complicated by the fact that many people in the United States are legally prohibited from ever marrying. So if you argue that one must always wait for marriage, you end up arguing that gay people in New York can have sex after they get married, but that gay people in Alabama will never be able to have sex, at least until and unless gay marriage becomes legal in Alabama. 

Which brings me to the biggest issue of all: To answer your question, I must not only define marriage (which turns out to be really hard to define); I must also define sex. What is sex? Is it actions that can result in procreation? Is it any kind of sexual intimacy? If so, is kissing sex? Is hugging sex if it happens to result in arousal?

We’ve created this aura around virginity as if one’s virginity is a real and tangible thing—but of course it isn’t. Sex and virginity are socially constructed concepts. Are you a virgin if you engage in oral sex? Are you a virgin if you’ve kissed a girl? Are you a virgin if it was just the tip? Are you a virgin if your hymen breaks from tampon-insertion?

In my opinion, our obsessive focus on virginity and sexual purity doesn’t serve anyone. Losing one’s virginity is not an event; it’s a process. Similarly, weddings are events, and signing your marriage license is an event, but marriages are not events. They are processes.

So no, I don’t think it’s inherently wrong to have sex before marriage, because I don’t know what sex means, and I don’t know what marriage means. I think people should feel empowered to make their own decisions about their own bodies in thoughtful and open conversations with their romantic partners.

And use condoms. The End.

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I could not love this man more if I were married to him.